Like every good book, every great show, and every epic movie, we seek the DRAMA and resolution. Nobody wants to read or watch a flat plot-line, which begs the question . . . can you find comfort in the calm?
Lately, on a weekly basis, I say to my husband (around dinner time), “There are just so many of them!” I’m referring to my helpless children. They can’t dress themselves, squeeze ketchup, or pour their own drink without help. In my mind, I can’t wait for them to be able to do for themselves. But as that time draws closer for my oldest, I recognize the empty feeling I will have, as a result. Am I ready for that?
We are natural problem solvers- some of us better than others. Some of us thrive on the drama – others run away as fast as we can. But all of us have an innate desire to feel wanted, accepted, needed. Partners, children, pets- they all fill that void.
When things are busy and tough, we feel exhausted and yet . . .useful.
When things are gravy we initially feel rested and peaceful and then . . . unsettled?
Why is that? Isn’t this what we’ve been working towards?
Why can we not find peace within the calm?
Every good story has a climax and a resolution.
Each of us has a different story, some more dramatic than others.
And if you look hard enough, we’ve all had our share of drama. So the real quest becomes, finding the peace, the joy and the comfort in the calm after the storm.
I’ve been a stay-at-home-mom for five-years and I’d be lying if I didn’t admit I’m scared shitless once the youngest goes to school, goes to college, gets married, has her own babies.
But the reality is, deep down, we are always hoping for a happy ending- EVEN IF, it doesn’t turn out as expected. At the very least, we want a lesson, and at most, our dreams come true.
So when we have it in our grasp- our great relationship, our healthy family, our fabulous co-workers or dream job- we owe it to ourselves to appreciate the moment. The Calm.