Confused. Devastated. Lost. Like a family dog, unexpectedly dropped off on the side of the road, I have felt abandoned. Have you?
Miscommunications, misunderstandings or obstacles too difficult to overcome for the other party to continue a relationship- all circumstances that lead to a burned bridge.
It’s tragic. It leaves you grasping for answers.
In an effort to empathize with the other person, I work hard to understand it from their point-of-view. Why did they feel the need to cut ties? What responsibility do I have in their decision?
Sometimes I am able to find fault in myself and other times I am left utterly perplexed and sad.
Which begs the question- what comes next? What do we do with our abandonment?
We can wallow, we can point fingers, we can get angry, we can get back. Or . . . we can lick our wounds and move on.
Our hearts are broken- the wound so fresh, so deep it seems unimaginable that it could ever heal.
But we patch it by surrounding ourselves with those who do love us. Those who do support us. We ask God for forgiveness and we wish those who abandoned us all the best. We seek grace.
We take time. We guard our hearts a little more. For a time, we feel fragile but eventually, we fortify it with love- from others and for others.
I am hurting. Deeply.
I will take time to mourn this loss.
And then I will look to you, my friends, my family, my supporters, to help me heal with your love, laughter and your openness to let me do the same for you.
To anyone that is hurting too:
I am holding your hand. You are loved. You are supported. You matter.
Camille Vaughan Photography