Notice

Have you noticed?

I do not consider myself a “current’ person but if you are on any kind of social media these days you have witnessed Ryan Reynlod’s reaction to his wife Blake Lively’s dress transformation.

It’s straight out of one of his movies.

Moving. What dreams are made of.

The moment was magnificent. They are both extraordinarily beautiful, stunning people.

But what about the rest of us?

I vacuumed out my disgusting van while also prepping lunches, dinner and teacher gifts.

He mowed the lawn, took out the trash and fixed Harper’s fan.

And yet I did not stop dead in my tracks to ogle him.

Welcome to reality.

It’s not extraordinary or sexy.

It’s so completely normal that I am literally closing the stinky trash-can lid as I type.

But the fantasy has us.

And what’s wrong with that?

Because without fantasy, what have you?

Reality.

It’s easier to dream than live.

Have you noticed?

“I just want you to know, I see how hard you’re working. I appreciate you, babe. We need you.” He said to me as I plopped down on the couch, after a second failed attempt to put the baby to bed.

And it occurred to me, that’s all anyone ever needs.

To be seen. To be heard. To be understood.

It doesn’t matter that we’ve never once exchanged a gift on our wedding anniversary. It doesn’t matter that we haven’t been on a date in many months.

What matters is that we recognize one another. Through words. Through a quick rub of the shoulders during dinner preparations. With a brief glance and smile in acknowledgment.

It’s a simple thing, really. With the huge payout of an everlasting love.

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