This one’s for all of my Empty Nesters out there.
You think you’re ready.
Joke as you “count down the days”.
Just like that,
Mine aren’t off to college
But the youngest is off to preschool this fall.
And it’s been 10 years (and 199 days but who’s counting?)
Since I’ve been home alone.
Let me repeat that.
It’s been 10 and-a-half years since I’ve been home alone.
I imagine that I will begin that first day crying and then laughing hysterically while eating ice cream in broad daylight watching inappropriate shows on Netflix.
And on the second day . . . .
On that second day I am throwing myself a celebratory brunch because you know what?
I’ve earned it.
And so have you.
Take time to cry and then upon realizing that they will be just fine,
Just like that.
Why didn’t anyone tell me this?
We spent K-12 in school learning the basics;
Yet, somehow they missed informing humans that
They. Are. Not. Done. Growing.
We set a magic number:
As if then, we are released to the world, ready to tackle it on our own!
What in the actual world??
Some of us go on to college, graduate or doctorate school. . . .
And some don’t.
We magically become parents who know it all?
No, no, no.
The trickiest part of parenting for me is the revelation that I am growing right alongside with them.
We are never done learning.
There is no final exam.
Just as they have their epiphanies, I have mine- only wishing I had mine first so that I could have led my children all the wiser.
Is this what they meant when they said ‘Life is not a destination, but a journey.”?
Perhaps, I should have been a better listener.