Name, address, kids’ names and ages and finally, career.
I was anxious and excited for my friends to share with one another what I already knew about each of them.
And yet felt wholly unprepared when asked to answer the question myself.
I spent the first part of my childhood dreaming of becoming a teacher. It evolved to aspirations of becoming a National Geographic Photographer and later, a writer. But all along, the desire of becoming a mother and staying at home to tend to them was as constant as the ocean currents.
I taught fourth grade throughout my pregnancy and am writing now. I’ve never become a National Geographic Photographer, but I’ve taken some pretty striking photos over the years.
So why do I feel embarrassed to report my dream status? Stay-at-home-mother.
I suppose it all comes down to identity.
How do we define ourself?
What are we proud to report and what do we have left to achieve?
Today, I discovered a college friend of mine passed away, suddenly, of complications from the flu.
I am shocked.
Death from flu is supposed to happen to newborns, the elderly or those with compromised immune systems, not a healthy mom of two young boys.
Or, so I thought.
She and her husband, whom she had dated since her early teens, were my college neighbors. I took a cruise with her, and two other girlfriends, to Mexico in our senior year. It was a momentous occasion for me. The time after an abusive relationship. A new beginning. A rebirth. And she was a part of it.
I haven’t spoken to her in years and yet, it feels like yesterday.
Why is that?
I searched through old photos and realized,
our lifetime is one big story.
And you cannot possibly have the same ending without each and every chapter.
So often, others have wondered why I hang on to letters, photos, and contacts.
And the answer is, because I never want to forget.
Without it, my story would never be the same.
Pam, thank you for the memories. You were an important chapter in my life and you will never be forgotten.
Today, millions are mourning the death of the passengers aboard the helicopter carrying basketball legend Kobe Bryant and his 13 year-old daughter.
The response seems right in line with any shocking news: Life. Is. Short. Live each day to its fullest. Tell those you love that you love them. Apologize before it’s too late. Don’t take today for granted.
But what does that truly look like for people around the world?
The thoughts are moving but the reality of taking my dream vacation today is unreachable.
So, now what?
I crawled into my attic to retrieve the mementos I’ve saved in my lifetime, curious as to what I considered important.
And, you know what I found?
Pages and pages of what I’ve written since I could write.
Thousands of prints.
Meaningless to few others than myself, but invaluable to me.