We are all a product of our collective experiences.
It is easy for me to wish away the sad things that have happened in my life.
But if it weren’t for those, I wouldn’t be who I am today.
This, as Oprah says, I know for sure.
Divorce is a terribly, sad thing.
Particularly when children are involved.
I was on my way to visit colleges with my step-dad, whom I had called “Dad” since I was two years-old when he announced, “Your mother and I are getting separated.”
Is it just me, or do you never ever forget that moment?
It’s like the world stops turning.
Sure, maybe I had known it was coming in some sick and twisted way, but did I ever want it to truly be?
And yet, there it was.
Worse, they were in business together and weren’t going to announce it to the very close-knit family company until January so now, I had a secret to keep.
That Last Christmas, we rented a house in nearby Sandbridge Virginia Beach, Virginia, decorating the tree one last time, only to grab our individual boxes to keep the ornaments we each wanted when the week was over.
It was the one of the saddest moments of my life.
Fast forward 20 years later and now, who are we?
If you were my dad from age 2-18, does that mean you are my dad for life?
If we were step-sisters and brothers then, are we still?
Time passes, parents re-marry.
Who are we now?
Oh, but not me.
Because I have my own future to tell.
Divorce, my children will not know.
Because we chose carefully.
We waited until we met one another to make that kind of commitment.
To be together until death do us part.
To raise our babies with love and joy.
To choose them.
To choose us.
Forever and ever.
Collateral Damage No More.
Instead, lesson learned.
This kind of love is forever.